Say Anything vocalist/guitarist Max Bemis has postponed his upcoming live shows. The frontman claims the decision was related to his mental health. However, fans have speculated that the real reason is related to recent sexual misconduct allegations.
The band said the following:
“Due to the need to prioritize his mental health and personal well-being, Max Bemis‘ upcoming performances have been postponed.
Max will be taking the necessary time away to focus on his health.
We appreciate everyone’s understanding, patience and respect for his privacy at this time.
Refunds will be available at points of purchase.”
The statement has since drawn backlash for failing to mention the recent allegations against Bemis, who has been accused of having inappropriate contact with underage girls. One of the alleged victims, a 17-year-old named Maxine, commented via Reddit:
“My name is max, for the sake of this post call me Maxine because it’ll get so confusing if not. Max bemis and me started talking around March of this year, he added me on instagram. On both my main and alt account.
I want to start this out my saying, yes, I did entertain and engage some of his behavior towards me and I will admit that. I also want to add that I am a trafficking victim, this is a negative behavior (that max knew about, I will touch on this more later) that me and my therapist are very actively working on, and my therapist is aware of my relationship with max.
Max started talking to me around March, but had followed me earlier, I would’ve been 16 when we became murals and very newly 17 when we started talking. I had my baby on March 6th in which he congratulated me on the birth. Later within the next month or so I was having issues with my child’s father, I didn’t have anyone to confide in at the time but max offered solace and judgment free space. He started making moves as we discussed these things. I opened up to max about my trafficking history, my childhood trauma, my self harm issues and eating disorder. He knew I was 17.
As things went on he gave his phone number, which I eventually started texting and calling back and forth with him on it (Screenshots provided.)
I’ve included our odd conversation about tinkerbell just because wth brah
My child’s father had cheated on me and left the state, I fell into a pretty deep depression. I would often text max late at night when I was or wanted to self harm, as he offered to be a shoulder to cry on. One night I had texted him about wanting to write but not having any idea what to write about (journaling and writing is a major coping skill for me.) he then brought up sex toys, and single moms. He had me write a poem about masturbation.
Along with these screenshots I provide him calling me a milf, and the XOs.
Max knows that I seek out inappropriate relationships with older males, I have told him about this. At which he took advantage. This is a behavior that harms me frequently and one I am working on. My therapist is absolutely fantastic (and has also listened to say anything since high school) and this post in itself is part of me healing, and changing and growing. I am actively cutting off this negative relationship. Max is blocked on everything as of now.
Even if Max hadn’t said anything dodgy or sexual to me ever, a 40+ year old man shouldn’t be talking to a 17 year old. That’s odd, and there’s a lack of boundaries there.
As for the recent situation (recent drama) I will not share the information I have publicly (but it is more than any of you know) as it is not mine to share. Max consulted with me on this because of my trafficking and abuse history, me and him have talked in depth about it. I gave him pointers and advice, I didnt think he’d go this far with it. I do not want this girl hunted, stalked or harassed because she is likely in an unsafe environment but harassing an abuser helps nothing. I do not want this girl to end up dead. Hun if on some off chance you see this or read it, I hope you’re doing okay. I hope you can eventually see past your current circumstances, and I hope you heal. You are bright and beautiful, and you deserve real love and support
As for Max, I know you will be reading this, and I’m sorry. I guess that’s stupid to stay but I am horribly empathetic towards everyone, even people who have hurt me. You know this too. Please get help, see someone, get on meds. For your kids sake if you don’t care about yours, and please. Find people to confide in who aren’t under 18. Take a break, think about your actions.
Do with this what you will, do not harass me or my family. I have left my information uncensored and I do not mind.”
Metal Anarchy 
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