During a recent appearance on the BREWtally Speaking Podcast, Dany Ciara, the ex-wife of Tim Lambesis, further opened up about their toxic relationship. She also raised new allegations against the frontman, who recently had to rebuild As I Lay Dying after footage of him engaging in disturbing altercations with Ciara and her dog surfaced online.
Ciara said the following about initially meeting Lambesis and the beginning of their relationship:
“We started talking to each other through Instagram and that same day when I first messaged him, he told me he’ll fly out to wherever I am to meet me.”
“We got married two weeks after meeting each other. And so what had happened was he flew to where I lived to meet me, and then I went back to California with him to see where he lives, and he showed me a little bit of his life. And then after that, we came back here and packed up all my stuff and drove to California. And on the way to California, we both were joking, but not joking, about getting married in Vegas. And we just ended up doing that.”
She continued:
“It just felt like I was on such a cloud nine and feeling like I can’t believe that, like, this is too good to be true, which it was.”
However, things started to change six months later, when she discovered he was cheating:
“I still remember it. It was on March 14th. We got together in September. So I just remember it was on March 14th, six months after we’d gotten together. And I just remember that was the worst day of my life.”
“It’s definitely something he’s done to everyone he’s been in a relationship with.”
She then described his actions during the aftermath:
“He wanted me to heal in the time frame that he felt was acceptable. He couldn’t handle days on end where I would have all the ranges of emotion. I would be angry, I’d be depressed, crying. I would not want to talk to him, not want anything and feel. I’d feel disgust. And these are like normal things you would feel after getting cheated on.
And that wasn’t acceptable to him. That caused a lot of the blowups between us because he would say I was torturing him by being in a bad mood for a long period of time or that I was just like generally like this awful, negative person. And he’d make comments to me like, you know, you won’t have the capability to heal and your timeline for healing is abnormal compared to most people.
He even told me that like cheating hurts him more than it would the average person. And I don’t know what that means. I don’t know how anyone else has reacted in the past, like infidelity, but I just felt like it was a way to shame me. The past is the past is something he’d always say too.”
She also revealed that things turned physical and he was using edited surveillance footage to make her look crazy:
“He had shoved me and took the phone from me. He took this video and he muted it. He took the audio out so you couldn’t hear that I was actually screaming at him, knew that he was cheating on me.
So I just looked like this absolutely crazy fucking person without any context.”
She also addressed one of the biggest claims against her:
“I do want to explain the context behind the biggest claim that he has against me, I guess, of me chasing him around the house with a knife. I will say I have pulled a knife on him more than once. There was this cycle of when things would escalate and I could feel it happening. like there were signs I knew when it was going to get physical.
And it started out with like Tim pinning me down, putting his body weight on top of me so I can’t breathe. I’d be screaming for help — which I do want to mention that we had several roommates, and a lot of them were men that Tim spent time with in prison. So I guess, I don’t know, they have some like bro code that no matter what like you don’t snitch… you always take his back. So they weren’t there to help me. Which I will, that’s another thing that I need to mention…’
“So [Tim] would… if I didn’t agree to quit being angry with him about something or be in the mood that he wanted me to, it would escalate to the point where like, you know, he’d have one of his mental breakdowns and then he would pin me down. He would strangle me — which I have evidence of, him strangling me.
…I have evidence of this too where it’s one of these times where he’s doing this to me and I’m screaming at the top of my lungs. And by the way, this is one of his so-called witnesses that he keeps mentioning. He keeps mentioning in comments and stuff about all this online. He has like eight witnesses that witnessed me abusing him and not the other way around.
One of his witnesses, I’m in there in our room screaming at the top of my lungs for him to come help me get Tim off of me. And like bloody murder, like screaming at the top of my lungs so loud that the neighbors called the police and he didn’t come help me. And I texted him the next day and I said, ‘I can’t believe you wouldn’t come help when I’m screaming for you like that. I don’t know if you heard me. Neighbors heard me. I know you were here. I know you were home.’ And I’m sorry I’m all over the place.”
She later added:
“I just wanted to mention that that’s the credibility of the people that he has as witnesses for him of my abuse to him. And he, I even have a video of Tim assaulting me, and that guy that I’m talking about that was our roommate, turning his back and walking away. So he would protect Tim at all costs too.
It’s like this prison thing. I don’t know. But back to the story about the knife, I would feel it get to that point. I’d feel it coming. You know, there were obvious signs after so many times of it happening that like if there was a weapon by me, no matter what it was, I would pick it up and I would hold it out to him to keep distance between us because if I knew what would happen if he got close to me.
So, that’s the context behind the knife video. And I’m not ashamed of it. Like I’m not going to sit here and say sorry, if for someone, he’s literally 110 lbs heavier than me and fucking strangles me. And there was times where I thought he wasn’t going to let off of my throat. So like why would I let him get close to me? And then he says that I’m apparently charging towards him in this video, like coming at him with a knife, which I I don’t recall that happening. It could have, but if I’m walking towards him, like, I can honestly, honestly say the only time I ever pulled a knife out on him was to keep him away from me.
And I bet you anything that… if he were to show this video to people, which he has shown videos to people in the past without the audio, is because you can probably hear me saying in the in the audio like ‘stay the fuck away from me.’ You know what I mean? And I wanted to give context to that scenario, because I feel I have the right to defend myself against him and I don’t know why he doesn’t believe that I did, but I did.”
She also claimed he sent edited footage to members of As I Lay Dying from a fake email account:
“It was after the fact that he spit in my face at Ken’s house. So he’s trying to figure out to keep the band together. And he thought by showing everybody that he’s being abused by me, that it could keep As I Lay Dying together. And obviously everyone knew that it was him sending this email out.
It was forwarded to me and I read it. I immediately knew it’s him. It’s the way he talks. And I confronted him about it. He later admitted to sending that email and said he’s trying to just salvage his career.
And that was basically the end.”
Ciara also accused Lambesis of creating AI-generated porn including material involving a minor and an adult:
“There was a time in our relationship where he was into making AI pornography on his phone…
I didn’t even know what to say. I texted him and I was like, what the fuck is this picture? So it’s a picture he generated, and even if he didn’t generate it, he saved it to his phone as is, and it was a picture of… these are AI, by the way… a kid, like, erect making out with an adult woman.”
Ciara also said Lambesis used her pets against her:
“”He did that because when he was mad at me, he would take it out on my dogs. He would let my dogs outside to punish me and let them escape. And we had coyotes everywhere. I’m so lucky that nothing happened to them.”
“He offered me $20,000 to get rid of [my dog]. And I think it was because he was just jealous of how much I loved her, but he didn’t like her for some reason. And she’s… That’s my… I love my dog more than anything in this world.”
“The video where he’s hitting my dog Scrappy. He’s making comments on Instagram and Facebook and stuff about how Scrappy would on shit the couch and that’s why he did what he did. But that’s not true at all. That video of him hitting and kicking my dog. He did that because he’s an asshole. And because he was abusive to my dogs, not because the dog shit on the couch. I just wanted to clear that up.”
Ciara also accused Lambesis of bringing his mother and more into in their fights. She went on to say the police got involved multiple times as well:
“One of the things that I think is really important to talk about is how many times the police had showed up to our house in response to domestic violence calls. And most of those came from like the neighbors calling the police. And I have never had to deal with police for relationship issues ever in my life before this.”
She also added that she wants to take back the narrative:
“I just want to speak my truth and move on with my life. I’m not gonna back down to him. I’m not gonna be scared anymore.”
Metal Anarchy 
Leave a comment